Sometimes I feel like I have two personalities that are at odds with each other.
One of those is my professional self. I get up every morning, get ready, dress in heels (most days) and go to work where I sit at a computer for roughly 8 hours then run out the door to get on the bus for the 30 minute commute home.
This professional self does the job and gets paid to help pay the bills, which include paying for daycare for my almost 3 year old son.
My other self? That’s the WoMOM self. *yeah I didn’t really even mention the wife self because she usually gets pushed to the far back*
The Mom self, after getting the Work self ready, wakes up the toddler, changes his diaper and gets him ready for daycare. I take him to “school” (which usually means carrying him in while wearing heels, such a fun thing to do, especially when it’s rainy and cold), then in the afternoon when I get home around 6:30, he’s home and I have to change his diaper and make sure he has dinner and brushes his teeth.
On the weekends, I get to be Mom full time, because even though Dad is there and is supportive of us, the boy really likes Mom more right now. Dad is the one who makes meals for us and there have been weeks when he’s had to travel and I’ve had to feel the full reality of what it would be like to be a single parent, that is NOT fun!
There are times when I get to be the Quilter Mom who spends precious time at the sewing machine making magical quilt blocks appear. The few days we had off on January 1st and 2nd was awesome. My toddler actually played by himself with his new cars he got for Christmas for a couple of hours straight! (Normally, when I sit down at the sewing machine, no matter what he’s doing he’ll get up and come over to request attention)
I haven’t figured out how to get these different personalities (or roles I guess I should call them) to play nicely together. Commuting and working 40+ hours a week is sort of exhausting, which explains why I typically fall asleep around 10 PM and most of the time while on the couch just vegging out and have very little time to myself or to spend with my DH.
But I’m determined that in 2015 I’m going to figure out how to get some sort of balance. Even if that means that I spend a few more minutes in the morning trying to fix my hair (I actually bought a flat iron last night and used it today for the first time in my life) or learning how to tie a scarf a different way (Pinterest I LOVE you!)
My boss is only a year older than me, she has three children (twins who are 2 and a kindergartner, all girls) and she still manages to come to work looking fabulous every day! EVERY DAY! She wears make up and her hair looks awesome and she wears pretty clothes.
I should be able to do that. I only have 1 child and he’s a boy, so his clothes and hair don’t require as much attention. (Be honest, it’s true) I just don’t put the attention I should on myself because I’m so busy with my daily routine.
Well, thanks for letting me ramble today. For those of you who follow my blog, I really appreciate knowing that people read it. I’m also documenting my efforts to fight the frump on Instagram with the tag #fightingfrumpmom If you want to take some steps to fight the frump, feel free to use the tag as well!
My next step is a good haircut and some better make up! (Oh and more practice with the flat iron)
Finally I’d love to hear if you have suggestions for fighting the frump and finding balance between a full time job as mom and as a “career woman.”